It’s Your Decision
At some time everyone needs to make up his or her mind about masturbation. There are so many potential choices. "Yes I can, and celebrate doing so." "I can, but only when the sexual pressure builds up to the point that it cannot be ignored." "I can, because it is a gift of God, given for me to enjoy whenever I feel so inclined." "I can, but God has given me the gift of total celibacy and I chose not to do so." "I cannot because if is forbidden by God; it is an act of lust." And finally, "to be honest, I don’t know what to think about it."
No matter who we are we do have to come to some decision. Sooner or later we will be presented with the urge to pleasure ourselves sexually, and it is good if, when that urge comes (and it will!) we can face it armed with a decision already made. It will help us preserve a clear conscience about what we choose to do, and how we decide to do it.
Nudity and/or Erotica
And if we do decide that solo sex will be a part of our life, we also need to make a decision about the use of nudity and/or erotica. If the answer is yes, then there are other questions to answer. Where do I draw the line? Do I decide to use just:
- my imagination,
- lingerie ads,
- mild nudity,
- sensual pictures,
- erotic clips from regular movies,
- pictures of simulated sex,
- or more?
And these decisions need to be made in the fear of God, seeking for His wisdom and favour.
"If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him." James 1:5 (NKJV)
God is Faithful
Once you decide before God what your masturbatory parameters are, what you can enjoy with a clear conscience, I have one piece of advice for you. Don’t sweat it. I said it before but it is important and bears repeating. If we make a mistake, and God wants us to do things differently, He is both faithful and gracious. He will let us know. In fact, He will not only let us know, but He will provide the grace to make any necessary changes.
I do not believe that I have all the answers. I have spent several years praying about this, studying the Scriptures and the writings of others, and in careful reflection. And I have presented you with my beliefs and conclusions concerning solo sex. But I suggest you not just take my word for it. You might want to do some research in the Word of God, and consider the opinion of others. If you chose to do the latter I have provide you with a section of links to facilitate the process.
And above all, remember Galatians 5:1 (NKJV) Stand fast in the liberty by which Christ has made us free, and do not be entangled again with a yoke of bondage.
God bless you.